What is companionship in the real sense of the word itself?
In my opinion the word itself signifies togetherness. Like waking up in the morning you’ll find your partner beside you. Maybe still snoring and still deep asleep. Or can be arms wrap around you at times and smiling at each other saying the magic word, “I Love You Dear”!
There are so many meanings of the word itself depending on how it is implied into use.
Companionship can be like you have someone going with you to the cinema, maybe to the opera, to the theater and going for a cruise. Collecting mushrooms, berries and even going fishing, etc. . it’s endless in it’s meanings.
Why do we need companionship?
With my two eyes open i have witnessed how older people are really very unfortunate having no one around to comfort them. No one to call when they are in dire need. No one to sympathize with them when they are in sorrow. No one to be at their bedside when they are badly sick in the hospital, praying and hoping that someone visits you. In the western society, has long time disappeared the culture of being mindful of even their nearest family relation. Elders are left to mend for themselves and survive the challenges brought about by getting old. No matter how many children you maybe have, still loneliness will be always be a part of our aged life.
The scope of companionship is vast in terms of how you translate the word.
Earlier when i was still younger than now, I could not understand hearing about older people still trying to find someone. I didn’t understand when someone even advertise in the local papers what sort of partner they would need. They publicize the specs of people they would prefer to be with. For me it seemed like taboo. I thought companionship meant only enjoying sex. It is not like that after all.
Now, even myself is thinking about having someone who can be seated side by side with me when the time comes. We all would be in a situation that we will need somebody to be close to us. Specially in our culture, we always should be surrounded by our loved ones. I am sure it would be wonderful to be sitting at the garden or wherever it might be, with someone special. whispering and comforting us about the beauty of the surroundings, the humming of the birds, about the beautiful sunset, the afternoon rush. wow, these give me a real peace of mind.
What is companionship compared to love?
Surely love is a many splendored things. It gives me chills thinking about finding a real true love. Can experiencing true love still occur at the later stages of our lives.
Isn’t it when we were younger maybe we already thought that the person we got married to or a partner we were into a relation for 20-25 or more years is our true love!
It is very difficult to comprehend the real meaning of true love should it anyway exist.
I believe that one could only say he/she is my true love when they have enough experience and had undergone many difficult trying times in the relationship. I say so because those who surpassed those days of bitterness and the like, can feel or have felt love in one way or the other. And so, because they felt that they really love that person and therefore, they have to sacrifice their whole life for true love’s sake.
Can a true love be experienced in a so abrupt incidental meeting someone and during that meeting felt something electrifying and uncontrollable feeling of indescribable momentum? And after that meeting one could not free his/her mind of the images and the thoughts about that special someone? Could that be true love? Maybe so!
Is it easy to find one whom can be called one’s true love?
Probably not that easy. There are lots of them hanging around, but it could be real gamble, so to say. That special someone could be not so a perfect person. Let’s say he can be still a good person per se, but he has more of undesirable traits? No can do!
That someone could be cheating at times, drinking at times with uncontrollable manners when drunk. He can be a selfish bastard and does not really care about you. This is a truly unavoidable scenario of nowadays man and woman’s relationship with each other.
Love should be coming from both sides of the coin. It cannot be called love when the other party is mindless of the other party. Love should be felt not only by saying the word, but you should feel it with chills and sinking deep into your whole being. That can be called love.
What about the cases of older man taking young girls half their age (from a third world country which is now very commonly happening) as their wife?
Could that be called love? Young girls who doesn’t even know yet how the world revolve. They are still in their age of innocence. I don’t believe it can be called love. In my opinion it is a pure and simple lust and crave for satisfaction by men. I don’t believe that their main concern is love. From the point of view of the young girl’s side, it is for sure fulfilling the financial necessity. Love is not a factor at all for them being together that’s why it is very common landing in separation.
How can you say to a girl that you love her when in fact she cannot even reciprocate yet to the attention given by an older man? How will these young girls survive the tides of times when left behind by their older husband coupled with 1-2 kids? It’s beyond comprehension.
It can result to a catastrophic situation given the harsh reality of life in a foreign land where those young girls have no idea how they can survive.
Now we’ll go back to COMPANIONSHIP!
Since we were talking about companionship, do we need to have a perfect match?
In what ways, could we say that a special person is our match? No way unless you have a personal contact with him or her. It remains a big question mark how one could be considered as a perfect match. Could it be having same level of education? Sometimes this situation could even bring out some sort of competition, like who is who. Resulting to misunderstanding to both parties.
Should that special person be a thing of beauty? or handsome? Should that person be wise, highly educated, should that person be a kind one with a big heart although lacking beauty?
Or do we really know how to measure beauty?
Should it be physically or beauty from within? In my opinion the beauty of a person could be measured not only physically but we have to consider also the inner side of it. In this case, we can be certain that the relation can wither the possible differences in opinion that is prevalent in any of existing relationships. Thus, may i add that relationship between matured people can even last up to their lifetime. They have in anyways got enough experience already how to manage themselves properly.
Let me say this without prejudice to any one. When you think about companionship, surely you are already in such age of retirement or even have retired already. Do you really think of a relation with a young girl to serve as your beloved companion in your last remaining days on earth? Maybe you think that oh oh, my wife (girlfriend) is young and want to show her off to your friends and to the world. And did it ever cross your mind that maybe she has no experience of some sorts but that she is only beautiful physically? Would it be beneficial for you when the time comes that you might be lying on the floor needing help, and all she does is scream panicking, when you urgently need that few minutes to save your life? I bet you might be thinking twice now.
Whilst a matured woman can contribute with the same amount and quality of life to your being together. That same matured woman can maybe save your life when the time comes that you badly need help to be able to survive. We are talking here about companionship. Not a decoration on your side.
A famous actor once said, Guys forget all the beautiful girls; Choose someone who could save you when you are on the floor lying and needs immediate care to remain alive!
Well it’s your call!
How about, could that person be loyal to you or someone who can have flings at any given times. I would say being loyal to the relationship is the most gratifying and remains very important part of any relationship/companionship, too. This is the best way how we can measure success in the relationship.
Therefore, i want to add that it is very safe to say that in a companionship there should be foremost Respect for each other. Love and Compassion, to make the relation works as it’s main purpose anyways.
COMPANIONSHIP is a very adverse word which connotes the real meaning itself. (tmp copyright 2019)
(Writer is a retiree and remains very active in writing articles about relationships and its survival).
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